The Boundaries Workbook
A 30-page workbook for staying close to the people you love without losing yourself in the process.
If you picked this up, there is probably someone you keep saying yes to when the honest answer is no. Your care was never the problem. What wears you down is care with no edges, given past the point where you have anything left, until resentment starts wearing the face of someone you love.
This is a guided space to look at where your yes goes automatic, and to practice saying the truer thing a little earlier each time. Done well, this work does not push people away. It brings you closer, because you stop quietly keeping score.
What’s inside
Six sections, built to be worked in order:
- What a boundary actually is, and how yours got set
- The resentment cycle, and how to catch it while it is still just a feeling in your chest
- Your early tells, and a boundary log for watching the pattern in real time
- The beliefs that make the yes automatic, worked through with the workbook’s notice, question, reframe sequence
- The three parts of a boundary, and borrowed words for the hard moments
- What to do when someone pushes back, and the small daily practices that hold the line
- A letter to the one who learned to say yes, and a record of the times a limit went fine
- Twelve journaling prompts and a thirty-day noticing practice
Who it’s for
For generous people who are quietly running on empty, and who read a room before they read themselves. If your no has gone missing, this was written for you.
It is not a workbook about cutting people off or hardening up. And one honest note: if someone in your life meets your limits with intimidation or control, that is a different situation than these pages address, and it deserves real support. The workbook points you toward it.
Format
30 pages. Type straight into the fields on your screen, or print it and write by hand. Both work. It is finishable at a page a day, with none of the padding.
Your investment
$24 $16
Regularly $24, at a standing price of $16. No countdown. This is simply what it costs.
A note on working with us
If the work here opens something you would like company with, our door is open. A conversation is a good place to start, and there is no pitch in it.